My parents are have almost absolute control of me, what do i do?

i'm a sophomore in highschool, and i got decent grades in freshman year, mostly B's a few B-'s, a few A's and ONE C+! they think that that was terrible and have now started to ride me and put pressure on me. the problem is that my school uses "net classrom" which allows parents to check updated grades AT ALL TIMES, meaning that if i turn homework in, my dad could know about it before me. he has no life. he made a color coded binder, and keeps an up to date log of what i'm getting. he works on it every night, he knows what i get on everything, and he know's what assignments i have, and he's really rubbing it in. what do i do? i cant work in this environment, im really laid back!

My parents are have almost absolute control of me, what do i do?
I am parent of a 15 yr old, an I know that if I did this to her she would freak right out. That is way to much pressure on a kid. Not everyone works that same why. They need to back up and give you a break here. That is if you are really trying your best to do all of your work, Do you feel that you could improve? Where do you do your homework at, in your bedroom? Try sitting out with your dad, and have him go over things with you as you do them. Maybe if he was more apart of your study habits he would no push so much...Talk to him about what you are learning about and ask for his input...ask him about what high school was for him. It may lighten him up a little. Good luck
Reply:Ummm...okay. i think you should have your dad read this. Hes way to hard on you. Just because you have one c+ it isnt that bad. Im 13 and if my parents did that to me id flip. And a color coded binder? no offense or anythying but thtas going wayu overborad. Report It

Reply:Ok, clearly your parents care a lot about how you turn out and seem to think that it's going to be completely dependent on your grades. They also clearly have no life as you pointed out.


Look, if this were me I'd have it out with them. Tell them the pressure they're putting on you is excessive and not making you want to work any harder at school. If anything, it's making you want to not go to school, period.


Failing that, I'd just up and leave.... I just couldn't handle that amount of intensity.....
Reply:tell them to back off that is just retarded they need to give you your space im mean come on goin nuts over a B is wrong but anyway if they dont back off then do something drastic like not hand in homework for a week or something do it just dont turn it in
Reply:It may not seem like it now but someday it won't matter what happened when you were in High School. He is just trying to help you and prepare you for the real world. It is better to have a Dad that cares instead of having one that doesn't care at all. Then maybe when your an adult and you have a wonderful job that supports your family, you can thank him.





I know this answer is just a "parent" answer, but you will understand, just not now. I wish I was back in school and all I had to worry about was my Dad checking on my grades and me just finishing my homework.
Reply:Sounds like they are going a bit overboard, but if you did your work (which you should), you would have nothing to worry about.
Reply:They are just trying to look out for you. You're actually pretty fortunate that you have parents who care as much as they do but I know that's not what you want to hear. I agree with what some other people are saying. Do your work and you have nothing to worry about. Do your work, do your best and relax.
Reply:I'll lay bets that C was in English.
Reply:well Matt hers what i would do i would say to my parents i need help in school I'm struggling with my grades
Reply:You say you're laid back. Maybe he thinks you're lazy, and can do better than just "a few A's" in school.





Look, here's the thing: college is expensive. Good grades get you scholarships to a good college. In a round-a-bout, tough to live with kind of way, your parents are actually thinking about your future. Talk to them about it. Show them that you're growing up. You're maturing. And you're responsible. Show them that you're trying your best to be the best possible student that you can be. Otherwise, this is never going to stop.





You're under 18. They own you until you graduate. Do what you need to do to make sure you have a future, and forget about their constant nagging. You may have different goals on what your life is supposed to be like, but they really do care about you and your future. Try to look at it from that perspective.
Reply:That really stinks. I don't know what to say other than talk to your dad about it. I would offer to show him that you can take care of your grades by yourself, and let him keep this up for a week or two and if your doing good, make the deal with him that he has to stop. Explain to him that it makes you uncomfortable, and it's harder for you to work. They key when your talking to him is try to sound mature and responsible. Ask to prove to him that you can be responsible by doing it by yourself. Tell them it would be easier to make good grades if they weren't so pushy about it. And maybe even talk with a teacher or guidance counselor about it.


My parents were harsh with me too, the best thing to do is not stress about it, and just chill. Maybe take my advice and talk to him if you like. It can't hurt anything. I hope something works out for you.
Reply:Your parents know what you are capable of, which is why they are pushing you. Study harder and listen to your parents. They just want what is best for you. Or do it your way and wind up working at McDonald's.
Reply:You ought to show them whose boss. Stop doing your homework! Maybe if you were bad, they would appreciate the old you. Follow my advice and see what happens! LOL It sound like they need a life!
Reply:Say yoo kno why i got that c+ is cuz yall put pressure on mi! Don't be a smart azz bout it though sit em down and talk polietly! But they juss tryna help yoo out for college!
Reply:Unfortunately, it sounds like they're just looking out for you. They want you to succeed, and preferably get a scholarship into a good college. I wish my parents would have paid more attention to me when I was your age, I ditched class a little too often. Just hang in there. Only a couple more years. :)
Reply:Give them more trust and let them accept you as you are with time.
Reply:Contact Earle C. Clements Job Corps. in Morganfield Kentucky and get out of the environment you are now in. You can get the number from 1411. This is a great place to live and have friends and get an education and housing. Do not stay and get abused. I think you should tell your school counselor about this, if you do not wish to go to job corps. I wish the best for you.I hope you can get mental peace from your parents.
Reply:You're a kid, you have to deal with it. Be happy your parents care. I know it seems like they are over doing it, but when you have kids you will finally understand.





Until then, you will just think he is crazy and has no life.... you are his life.
Reply:Good for him! You should feel lucky to have caring parents who are concerned about your future.


Trust me, its not that bad...ten years from now you won't even remember high school that much!
Reply:You're still a kid
Reply:Let him know your not going to have that kind of structure in college or life in general. that they're hurting you more than helping you. Your performance now is the outcome of their pressure not your work and if they don't back up and let your actions speak for themselves they won't just be disappointed in you they'll be disappointed in themselves cuz they never let you find out who you are.
Reply:It definitely sounds like they're going overboard, I know that you can't appreciate it right now but one day you will. I wagged heaps of classes in high school, I wish that my parents had been a bit more like yours. However, I dont think I would be able to cope with that amount of pressure. Sure grades are good, but they are not everything! There is more to being a teenager than getting good grades. I think the best thing to do in situations like these, is sit your parents down and have a talk. Tell them how its making you feel. If you do and they don't lighten up, then you should rebel. It might get you in more trouble, but it might also open your parents eyes. You dont have to completely get shite grades, you could wag school or ... stay out late or something. Remember you don't wanna eff up your own future just to get back at your parents for wanting the best for you.
Reply:Tell them what you just told a bunch of strangers. :D Tell them that it's getting really hard for you to work with all this pressure, and for them to just wait until progress reports come out and then ride on you. 0.o Seriously, just tell them that you are trying really hard yourself and it hurts you that it can't be good enough for them. Tell them that you are working on your grades and you don't need them to be nagging you every second of the day, because that makes you feel like you can't work.





My friend's dealing with the same sort of pressure. Her parents are constantly checking her grades and if her GPA drops below a 4.0 she gets grounded until she brings it back up, she's already skipped a year and is in advanced classes. The unfortunate thing is, if you can't convince your parents to leave you alone, there's no alternative. They're in control of you and even if they're screwing up your life and work ethic, if they aren't hurting you, it's legal.
Reply:One option is to move out . Finish school and either:





A%26gt; Go away to a university.


B%26gt; Join the Military when the war is over .
Reply:do what kids your age have been doing since the beginning of time - rebel!
Reply:Put up with it for 2 more years, have the sense in 6 or 7 more, when you graduate from a good college with a good degree, to thank them for their 'unfairness'. Really- I know it stinks, but if you can't pull those lower grades up without them looking over your shoulder, you've done this to yourself. B-s are not that great.
Reply:Chill for two years.. then move out and be the big shot you think you are....
Reply:whoa they may be a little psychotic or maybe they just want you to do well. tell them that you need your space if they say no well


lizze borden took an axe...


lol jk did you not do well when you were younger? maybe they are worried about that
Reply:Hey it is me you friend Matt from class!
Reply:Tell them that you feel that they are putting a lot of pressure on you and that you want them to back off a little so you can concentrate. Promise that you will keep them updated yourself.
Reply:i would flip out on him and burn all the books in front of him